That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding

#76 Vicious cycles, virtuous cycles and hoarding

Each step in each of those cycles just perpetuates the other steps. And so we spiral downwards, because we feel we can't get out of the cycle. And the thing with vicious cycles, by definition is that you're setting yourself up to fail.For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darlingQuestions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestionsTwitter: @ThatHoarderMastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.onlineTikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderochFacebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarderYouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9gReddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/jMYBSEiDcsULd5Ss3h87Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

#75 Anthropomorphism and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology

"We're wired to connect, we need others to co-regulate our emotions and in order to feel a sense of belonging, we'll do anything to achieve this."For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darlingQuestions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestionsTwitter: @ThatHoarderMastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.onlineTikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderochFacebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarderYouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9gReddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

#74 Couples and hoarding: An interview with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist

"The work is how do you get out of defensiveness and into generosity?" - Couples therapist Laura Silverstein, on couples and hoarding.  For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darlingQuestions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestionsTwitter: @ThatHoarderMastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.onlineTikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderochFacebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarderYouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9gReddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

#73 Subverting the word of the year

"Big and bold can be quite performative. But it's not necessarily that useful. It might look good briefly. But you don't often get the long-term change you're looking for. " For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darlingQuestions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestionsTwitter: @ThatHoarderMastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.onlineTikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderochFacebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarderYouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9gReddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Remix: Trauma and hoarding: an interview with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology

So I haven't missed an episode of this podcast since October 2021 including publishing on Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve last year. Every week, brand new content.And I think I deserve a couple of weeks off. But fear not! For two weeks, I am republishing some previous episodes that I know you valued before.I am a big believer in re-listening to things you've already heard, because you can pick up all kinds of new things that you missed the first time around.Also, I know that some podcasts stopped releasing content altogether over the break. But not everybody celebrates Christmas and New Year, not everybody is part of a culture that values those traditions. And also not everybody enjoys this time of year (including me, that's a secret).So, for you, enjoy! For the full transcript, click here. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darlingQuestions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestionsTwitter: @ThatHoarderMastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.onlineTikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderochFacebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarderYouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9gReddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Remix 2-in-1: Giving gifts, getting gifts, and what to do with unwanted gifts

So I haven't missed an episode of this podcast since October 2021 including publishing on Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve last year. Every week, brand new content.And I think I deserve a couple of weeks off. But fear not! For two weeks, I am republishing some previous episodes that I know you valued before.I am a big believer in re-listening to things you've already heard, because you can pick up all kinds of new things that you missed the first time around.Also, I know that some podcasts stopped releasing content altogether over the break. But not everybody celebrates Christmas and New Year, not everybody is part of a culture that values those traditions. And also not everybody enjoys this time of year (including me, that's a secret).So, for you, enjoy!For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darlingQuestions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestionsTwitter: @ThatHoarderMastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.onlineTikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderochFacebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarderYouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9gReddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

#72 A deeper kind of end-of-year review

"If we want to make more progress, I think the best way of doing that is to look not just at what we achieved and didn't achieve, but what worked and what didn't. Because then we can do more of what worked and less of what didn't work."For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darlingQuestions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestionsTwitter: @ThatHoarderMastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.onlineTikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderochFacebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarderYouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9gReddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

#71 Dehoarding: where to start

Where to start when dehoarding your home? I'm asked it a lot and it's a huge question, and not one with a simple answer. In this episode, I take you through both the physical and psychological places to start with addressing your hoard. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darlingQuestions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestionsTwitter: @ThatHoarderMastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.onlineTikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderochFacebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarderYouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9gReddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

#70 Resilience and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology

The research into resilience in the sphere of positive psychology does indicate that we can practice and develop our resilience. And that starts with awareness, then acceptance of where we are right now and a plan to build on our strengths and weaknesses. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darlingQuestions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestionsTwitter: @ThatHoarderMastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.onlineTikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderochFacebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarderYouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9gReddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

#69 Negative self-talk, cognitive restructuring and hoarding

Whenever anything goes wrong, whether it's something terrible I've done, all the way to just being in a traffic jam, I find a way to yell at myself in my own head about what a terrible person I am and how awful I am and why everything in the world that's bad is my fault.It's a really exhausting way to live and yet it is pretty constant in my head.And I know when I hear from you that it's not just me, we all I think give ourselves a really hard time, we are our own worst critic.For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darlingQuestions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestionsTwitter: @ThatHoarderMastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.onlineTikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderochFacebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarderYouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9gReddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.